Yesterday, marked the fifth week the girls have been with
us. In some ways, it feels like a life
time already and in others a slight blur.
I think “maternal and paternal leave” was forced on us as we had no
choice… but to stop and be present for the girls. At least we are both safe to them… so if one
of us is around the other can go to work.
Which really does help, but requires team work at a whole new level
between Holger and me. They are
adjusting mostly well and home has become safe and church has got safer… bed
time has got easier. Overall, we are
growing beautifully together.
It is an amazing process to watch their little personalities
come out and see their interests emerge.
Their vocabulary astounds us… they parrot all the time and never fail to
ask… “What is this?”
As for their
development, they all have some unique little talent that has shown up that can
be nurtured and developed. The youngest
girl needs to get into gymnastics, the oldest into dance and the middle girl
into piano lessons soon. I cannot wait
to invest into their little lives and see what grows from this…
However, there are some great challenges still. We have taken on children from very difficult
backgrounds and until their court appearances happen and paper work is official
we must hold them lightly… this does not feel comfortable at all. Please keep their paper work and their court
appearances in prayer. We have one on
the 5th of April. I am
slightly anxious about it all…
Another great challenge is school. The oldest girl has settled in well and I am
so pleased to say, loving school and talks a lot about it all. The middle girl only managed one day… and we
have been in a process to get her ready to try again. This included potty training the little girl
to be able to accompany her… it is much easier to get them all going
together. I had hoped that by now the
oldest girl’s enthusiasm would have rubbed off…
Today is day two of our second round for the middle girl to
try school. The excitement is great, the
will to go is great, she packs her bag and chatters a lot… until we get
there! “Something” takes over and she “leaves”. For two days, I have brought her and the
youngest. I stay and work from the back
corner. I observe and what I see breaks
my heart. The world is very unsafe for
them. My plan to stay for just two days
may be short sighted? If this is what it
is like when I am I the room, what will it be like when I am out?
The school is a beautiful little Christian School with a
calm environment and a beautiful facility.
The teachers in their class have calm mannerisms and… I do not think
another school is the answer, this one is beautiful and I cannot home-school…
as their language is not one I can speak.
I must press through on this one as it is in their best interest.
It is sad to see children who are full of personality hide
themselves in public and somehow become blind to fun?!
Holger and I chose to work with children that needed
rescuing with an intention to commit to them for the long run. We are fostering with the desire to give a
forever home if that is God’s best for them and for us…
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| Watching from the back of the classroom |
Now we walk this journey one step at a time and sometimes in
the dark… but we know He is near…
Thank you for sharing in this journey and listening to the
roses and putting up with me sharing about the thorns too…
The next blog is going to be all about Beloved!
This is really hard, Kay. Praying into the deep pain of trauma in these beautiful girls, and the legal processes to secure all of them.
ReplyDeleteThank you Rhonda, I never realised how vulnerable they are until all the paper work that secures foster care is taken care of. We have the most amazing social worker at Kin and I am just so thankful we do not have to face this all with out her!
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